喜福会1993

身为女性，一直对女性意识的主题很感兴趣。《喜福会》这部电影就以四对母女关系探讨了女性意识的时代流变，对于女性的弱者的地位，与女性为求改变的不断抗争，进行了描摹。 旧中国的妇女，与美国的新时代女性，绵延半个多世纪，甚至将近一个世纪，女性在不断的找寻自己的位置，从被压迫与被欺凌的旧中国，到女性可以参与社会事务与男人平起平坐的、号称世界上最民主最开放的美国，可说是两重天，这个电影，给了我们展示女性地位变化、人格命运演变的最好的舞台。 女性找到真实的自我了吗？从外表上看，女儿们不再有母亲所要经受的父权与夫权的压迫，而精神上呢，女性自身对自身的束缚，却并未远离。 从血缘中，从慢慢追述的历史中，母亲们期望着的是，自己身上的悲剧不再重演，可是那些创伤已经渗入她们的骨髓，在对女儿们的教育中，她们将那些过高的期望、被压迫者过分的敏感与自尊一股脑压在女儿的身上，结果，造成了母女之间深深的隔阂，以及女儿残缺的人格。 周彩芹演的林朵阿姨，是个性鲜明、开朗直爽的母亲，从小靠自己的力量从包办婚姻中逃离，到了美国后，对女儿寄予了极高的期望，女儿有下国际象棋的天赋，得冠后照片被登上杂志封面，这位兴奋的母亲就一路拉着孩子向人夸耀，孩子并不喜欢，母亲就冷眼相向，当孩子向她请求谅解，想继续下棋，她却说了一句，想下就下没那么简单，这句气话，挫伤了女儿的自信，从此她觉得天赋远离了她，再也没赢过，不肯低头的母亲，就这样把孩子的信心给毁了。 女性的抗争，体现在家庭的这一层面，以女儿作为载体，结果是对女儿的成长造成了创伤，不仅不会成功，反而是女性对女性的进一步伤害，目的过于明确的教育，把自己的好强强加于女儿身上，是对另一个独立的心灵施加的强权，剥夺了灵魂独立性的教育，并不能实现自己的目的，却使得母女之间产生了深深的代沟，女儿们的心灵在畸形的教育下扭曲，成为心灵上的弱者，这是女性对女性的伤害。 心灵上的弱者，是真正的弱者。回看母亲当年，面临着体制的社会的压迫，她们以自己的聪明才智进行了抗争，并成功地从那里逃离，为自己找到了自由，而她们在女儿的心里造成的伤口，却令女儿们找不到自己。结果，四个女儿都走了弯路，或者婚姻不幸，或者生活失去目标，之所以成了“不完整”的人，是因为她们的人格不完整，是扭曲的，一直都为别人活着，或者是为母亲，或者是为丈夫，而从未想过按自己真实的意愿去活。 母亲们后来意识到了这种伤害，由于过高的期望，或者自己残缺的人格对女儿的影响，她们向女儿们伸出了手，鼓励她们。 卢燕饰演的阿姨的女儿，赢得了一位学校里家世显赫的男生的爱情，但在婚后，她却放弃了学业，一心为了丈夫与家庭，一切都从丈夫的要求出发，直到失去这份感情，到要离婚，最终，在母亲的鼓励下，她不想再为丈夫，说出了自己真实的想法，她的萌醒的自我意识，却帮助她的丈夫重新发现了她，他们又和好了。 另一位阿姨的女儿，要和丈夫过严格的AA制生活，这种生活在蚕食着女儿的尊严，母亲想起自己的生活，被寻花问柳的丈夫骂贱人，那种伤害令她意外溺死了自己的孩子，伤口终生不愈，母亲告诉女儿，你是值得被尊敬的，离开他，后来女儿找到了珍惜她的人，获得了幸福。 母亲和女儿的这一对关系，既有对立也有和谐。在童年时，过高的要求，对女儿们产生了伤害。成年以后，母亲又用自己的人生阅历，为女儿解开心锁，帮助她们认识自己，了解自己，树立信心。女性与女性最终不再对立，而是成为伙伴，这是摆脱弱者地位的一剂良方。 女性应懂得自尊，母亲们告诉女儿们这个道理。自尊自爱，然后才能去爱也才能被爱。 弱者的地位，如果是预先在心里就为自己设定了，那就势必无法摆脱，而女性的抗争首先要从认识到自己的价值开始。意识到自己不是弱者，是平等的人。只有有了这样健康的心态，女性才能获得真正意义上的解放。对比《被嫌弃的松子的一生》里的松子，一生从没为自己活过，都是在为男人，父亲或是情人，甚至不惜为此作贱自己，扮鬼脸、受虐待，完全没有自尊可言，这样落败的女性意识，还不如十多年前的一部《喜福会》，还要被作为“神”来加以讴歌，简直是莫名其妙。《喜福会》探讨的女性意识的流变与挣扎，与女性发现自身价值，挺起胸膛为自己活，其意义不独对女性，对每个弱者都是有启发意义的。

The Joy Luck Club is a film based on the best selling novel by Amy Tan of the same name. This movie tells about the conflicts and love between four Chinese immigrant mothers and their American-raised daughters. These mothers acquainted themselves with each other by playing mahjong. They became closed friends for their similar experiences and they called themselves the Joy Luck Club.

The story shows us quite a few topics: the misunderstanding of love between the mothers and the daughters, the clash between the generations and cultures, and the struggle for the women to fight for equity. Now I am going to show you my understanding of them, emphasizing on the first topic. In many cases, we and those we love are easy to hurt each other because of the misunderstanding of love. Let’s take June and her mother Suyuan as an example. After being humiliated by a lack of talent for writing at the dinner, June had a quarrel with her mother. She told her mother that she had always been sorry for being so disappointing and her failure in living up to her mother’s expectation made her feel like a real loser. Her mother explained that she had never expected anything of June but only hoped best for her. From Suyuan’s view,it’s not wrong to hope. However,the daughter held an opposite opinion.

She said,

Every time you hoped for something I couldn't deliver, it hurt. It hurt me, Mommy.And no matter what you hope for...I'll never be more than what I am.And you never see that!What I really am.”

It’s obvious that June had taken her mother’s hope for her as burden rather than love.Daughters may do everything to please their mothers just because they love them .Each time when they fail to satisfy their mothers,they will feel really frustrated.Unfortunately,the power they have over their children are always neglected by the mothers.They are more willing to regard their hopes as love. The misunderstanding of love is not only because of their differences in generation and cultural background, which only serves as a carrier here, but simply because that they are mothers and daughters—there’s something essential in matters with the mother-daughter relationship, but even the misunderstanding of love, after all, is still a type of love.

At the very beginning of the movie, it tells a story about an old woman who bought a swan for a foolish sum and brought it to America.But when she arrived in the new country,the immigration officials pulled the swan away from her,leaving the woman only one swan feather for a memory. For a long time now, the woman had wanted to give her daughter the single swan feather and tell her, "This feather may look worthless...but it comes from afar and carries with it...all my good intentions." The short story is a metaphor for the hope these four mothers had when they immigrated to America--that their daughters would be graceful,dignified and noble ladies just like swans. Meanwhile,the single swan feather symbolizes mothers’ hopes for their daughters of finding their own identity. June tried in the end to live up to her mother’s hopes and expectations,and finally went to China to meet her twin sisters.When she met them,she brought them their mother’s hope and eventually found the best of herself. Viewing from the whole film, the title, the Joy Luck Club may also be the old generation’s hope of better life for the next generation ,just as the single swan feather,which carries all mothers’ best-cherished hopes for their daughters.

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